不知道别人看到这样的题目的时候会是什么感觉。看到它，我的第一印象就是这是《疯狂的石头》里面道哥的台词。所以想起这句话我就笑了。不过笑不仅仅是因为道哥自认为自己才是好人时那种黑色幽默，更多的是因为我相信这个世界上大家都是好人。

之前一直强烈推荐亮哥去看几部美剧，其中有Desperate Housewives，因为我觉得它每集都能从美国人民生活中一堆烂事中讲一点点东西，也许是道理，是感动，是沉思，是欢笑。在我之前沉闷的自省和彷徨中，DH让我看到、了解到很多。亮哥在五一期间独自把DH的第一季看完了，有一天他跟我说“妈的，这个片子里面没一个好人，我原来还以为Zach挺好，原来他这样”——我估计他刚看到Zach为了养父去威胁祖父的那集。

于是我说，事实就是这样，世界上没有好人。亮哥忙说“那到不是，这毕竟是艺术，有夸张”。我说，如果你能像在电视剧中一样，作个冷眼旁观的第三者来看这个世界，看别人在人前人后的不同表现，那这个世界上的确没有好人了。要真有这样的功能，也许我们会看到楼上的善良邻居却喜欢溜狗时候趁人不注意让狗尿别人的车轮，因为他的新车圈被狗狗弄锈了；也许我们会看到公司整洁admin家里泡了两天的油碗；会看到千万富翁的老婆在菜场偷别人一个玉米棒子；会看到模范丈夫在外找了情人、万人眼中贤妻良母一心却是要变成能够依靠魅力对男人呼风唤雨的Gaby……慢着，这样看下来，世界哪还有好人？别急，我们还有可能会看到平时凶巴巴的保安在家里收养了小区里面的流浪猫；看到成天吵架的夫妻一起默契地为要远行的女儿细心整理行礼；看到对乘客脾气暴躁的公车司机下班后给别人让座；看到博爱的大众情人深夜独自听马头琴想心中逝去情。

是的，我们会看到别人中的自己和自己中的别人。这个世界上，没有真正意义上的好人、坏人，我们既是坏人，又是好人，好坏就在你如何看了。只要心里有信念，又何必在乎别人怎么看自己，看自己的世界呢？Keep the faith。

你是好人吗？

笑笑就好，别回答我～

这是今年过年回家时候写的一篇，一直存在live writer里面，忘了发出来了。

chasin’~追逐自己的目标，超越一切的目标。我会一直努力，不管处于什么情况，不管一路有什么困难，因为它的存在，让我可以忍受一切，可以无视一切。你准备好这样的目标了吗？参考我的“人·树·屋”

先整理一下思路，把回家路上和在家几天来看到的、想到的理理清楚。14号，早上五点就起床，磨蹭着收拾东西吃早饭，然后便拎着东西赶去机场。出乎我意料的是不到7点居然虹桥机场外送人的出租就排起长队，看来临近春节，哪里都是急着往家里赶的人。还好没有耽误办理登机手续，顺利的坐上了春秋的飞机。号称没有服务的春秋航空，和别的航空公司比，除了少两趟饮料和那点点心，其他都还不错。

盘旋在厦门上空之时，看到下面一片黄土覆盖的城市，心想，这就是我心目中那个最适合居住的城市吗？怎么成了这样？话说到了厦门，就没那么好受了，先在长途汽车等了3个多小时的车，上车之前因为该死的广播又差点错过汽车。等发车的时候，一看，恩已经晚点40分钟了。。。好嘛，没办法了，看看能不能来得及赶回市里坐上车回家～虽然不是快运汽车，但是也让我很吃惊地在不到3小时的时间到了市里，可是在高速上跑起来感觉还不如上沧区间快。。。不过，麻烦事才刚开始——回上杭的车已经没票了。。。。。。。。-____________-!!! 等了一个半小时，终于以超出正常票价50%的价格拿到车票，上了一辆市里到上杭标配的烂车。。。一路再次体会到豆腐渣工程以及超载的厉害。心想，不怪车破啊，这样的路，车一天跑两趟下来，一年不散架那就是好车！这么说南京一味可还真就是好车！

回到家里，已经是晚上的7点半了，要说除了在飞机上那一个多小时过的还算轻松，这一天下来，真不比坐火车好到哪里去。

猪年快乐~新的一年来了，新年新气象，希望今年自己和家人都能平平安安，健健康康，能有好心情。也猪我的朋友们身体健康第一，心情愉快其次，然后就是心想事成啦！

…

Stan:  Wait a minute… That’s it!  I don’t get it. 
Kyle: Huh?
Stan: Don’t you see Kyle?  I don’t get it.
Stan(run to Token): Token,  I get it now.  I don’t get it.  I’ve been trying to say that I understand how you feel … but I’ll never understand.  I’ll never really get how it feels for a black person to have someboy use that ‘N’ word.  I don’t get it.
Token: Now, you get it, Stan.
Stan: Yeah, I totally don’t get it.
Token: Thanks, dude.

 

 - Scripts from ‘South Park’ 11th season episode 1

 

有多少次，我们对自己说，对别人说，“我明白”、“我理解”，而实际上根本不知道他/她说的是什么，不知道为什么他/她这么做？我不知道别人，我承认自己有过不止一次这样的经历。

这不仅是对别人善意的谎言，同时也是对自己的纵容。我们在告诉对方的同时，也在对自己说，“我明白了”，“我能理解”。这，只是在蒙蔽自己的眼睛，以及心灵。实际上，要对自己说“我也许永远也无法知道他/她真实的想法，但我会努力尊重他/她的想法、做法”。

 

只有当自己真正意识到，有些事情，你永远不可能明白之后，才能活的更轻松，不用替别人背负你自己的想法。

 

I Don’t Get It.  是的，有很多事情，真的我无法明白。

Boyz II Men – Good Guy Lyrics

Don’t be Evil, be BAD~坏？邪恶？还是有差别的。当google的两位创始人说’don’t be evil’的时候，也许就暗含we can be bad (and we will?!!) 哈哈。来个对比：

Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh ohh

I don’t understand your thinking
I thought we were happy, guess I was mistaken
Gave you all my love and my attention
Say you don’t want me
Cuz something is missing
Gave you all you wanted and you know it’s true
All that I was doin’ meant nothing to you
And if I told you why, we’d probably be cool
But I was good to you, so good

But you want a guy that’s real nice
That’ll spend all his dough and his time
But then you change your mind and want a thug guy
Who won’t act right
It doesn’t pay to be the good guy

You callin’ me late nights
Tellin’ me how he won’t act right
Stay with him but he makes you cry
Tell me why
It doesn’t pay to be the good guy
‘Cause every time I’ll be right

I try to be the good guy
You take me for granted,throw me to the side
Rather have a man that’ll tell you lies
Tell me why, tell me why, tell me why

Why should I be the good guy
And get left for the man that don’t treat you right
There’s nothing good in being good guys
Tell me why, tell me why, tell me why

I don’t understand your reason
Sayin’ you love me, then sayin’ your leavin’
The situation here has really changed me
Don’t wanna fall in love cuz you play me (oh)
You gotta be kiddin’ me (no)
You tryin’ to get rid of me
I did more for you than any brother would do
I was good to you, so good to you

Plus you want a guy that’s real nice
That’ll spend all his dough and his time
But then you change your mind and want a thug guy
Who won’t act right
It doesn’t pay to be the good guy

You callin’ me late nights
Tellin’ me how he won’t act right
Stay with him but he makes you cry
Tell me why
It doesn’t pay to be the good guy
‘Cause every time I’ll be right

I was good to you (I played the fool)
Played the fool for you
You messed it up for the next girl in my life
I’ll never do the things I do for you
Our love just wasn’t true
I was good to you, so good to you
So good to you
Every time I try…

 

形莫若就，心莫若和~实在还谈不上能对庄子有多深的理解，只不过保持一颗平常心适合我现在的状态，所以借用他老人家的话。需要慢慢研读，感悟。

Doing Things Change Things~

Make Yourself Happy~

Play Every Game as if It Is Your Last~ 永远不变的态度

chasin’ 永远不变的追求

computer architechture: a quantitative approach

operating system concepts
distributed system: concepts and design

compiler : principles, techniques and tools

introduction to algorithm

 

… to be continued …

 

It’s No Secret

You Attract What – and Who – You Are

© Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Are you a positive person, emitting positive energy? The best way to know, plus 10 bonus signs. The Law of Attraction (The Secret) has positively energized the universe!

We transmit energy constantly; others pick up on that energy and gravitate towards us (or are repelled by us). The Secret is the most recent incarnation of the Law of Attraction, which states that like attracts like. It’s as simple as that.

How do you know if you’re emitting positive energy? The best – and easiest – way to know is by looking at the people in your life. Are they encouraging and uplifting you, or draining away your energy? (Those energy vampires will get you every time).

You’re a positive person when you:

1. Stay in touch with your dark side and weaknesses, and are willing to grow towards healing and strength
2. See the positive qualities in other people
3. Feel compassion towards yourself and the world (we’re all doing the best we can!)
4. Listen to – and try to understand – other perspectives, regardless of how different
5. Give the benefit of the doubt
6. Express your true self in thoughts and actions, gently and honestly (and free others to do the same!)
7. Share your negative thoughts and emotions
8. Celebrate the success and happiness of other people
9. Feel fear and defeat, and keep persevering anyway
10. Follow your dreams and desires

You’re not positive when you:

1. Ignore your dark side and weaknesses (and then act them out)
2. Focus on other people’s mistakes and weaknesses
3. Obsess about being perfect; whether it’s at work, at home, or with your appearance (or other people’s!)
4. Try to change other people’s perspectives and opinions
5. Try to please people constantly and ignore your own needs
6. Let other people’s moods and energy dictate your own
7. Swallow your negative thoughts and emotions
8. Resent the successes and joys of others
9. Allow fear and cynicism to harden your heart and color your perspective
10. Ignore your goals, plans, and passions

Perfection and popularity

Positive people are determined to do their best, and to see the best in the world around them. They don’t focus on "should have" or idealized, perfect expectations that are impossible to live up to. They have an open heart and a sense of humor. They don’t care about being popular or keeping up with the Jones’s – and they stay in touch with their hearts and souls.

Failures and disagreements

Positive people make mistakes and own up to them. They keep lines of communication open, opting for discussion and connection – and they’re satisfied with "agreeing to disagree." Neither failures nor disagreements faze them, because they know they’re part of living and working with humans!

The Secret can change your life, if you let it.

Letting Go

How to Say Good-bye to Your Past and Move On

© Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Whether you’re dealing with death, divorce, or fate – you can get let go of the pain and disappointment of a lost relationship!

Letting go of someone – or something, like an addiction – can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. Even if it was a painful relationship and you had to cut someone out of your life for your own sanity, you still may struggle with letting go.

It’s not easy, but there are practical ways to move on. Before you delve into letting go and saying good-bye to your past, however, consider facing your memories and experiences.

Six Steps to Facing Your Past:

1. Write, talk, draw, paint, or otherwise tap into your thoughts and memories
2. Let the emotions and feelings of painful memories wash over you – you’ll feel horrible during, but relieved and peaceful afterwards
3. Go back and talk to the people involved, if possible
4. Share your real feelings; confess if it’s appropriate
5. Apologize and ask forgiveness if you need to
6. Get help with uncontrollable urges to overeat, get stoned or drunk, or otherwise hurt yourself

Letting go of loved ones – whether it’s a divorced spouse, dead child, estranged sister, or euthanized pet – is possible. It requires effort and energy, but your own strength and courage will kick in. You’ll not only survive, you have the opportunity to be wiser, more peaceful, and more centered than before.

Accept that there’s nothing you can do to change the past. You did the best you could. You were as good, loving, and effective as you could have been. If you were to go back, you couldn’t do anything differently because that’s who you were and that’s what you knew. It’s done.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Ruminating on what you could’ve or should’ve done is ineffective and unhealthy.

Be aware of your thoughts. When you find yourself dwelling or obsessing over the past or the person you lost, gently draw your thoughts back to the present.

Trust the nature of time. You will heal and move on. Your wound will slowly close up and soon only a faint scar will remain.

Make new connections with people. You don’t necessarily have to make a whole new set of friends; you can initiate a new type of friendship with a colleague or invite a neighbor over for coffee.

Seek balance in your conversations. It’s important to vent and share your pain and sadness, and it’s equally important to show your interest in other people’s lives.

Explore a new world. Take a new course at the community college or start a new hobby.

Volunteer your time. There are hundreds of interesting opportunities! Visit a volunteer website or centre in your city. Move out of your comfort zone: if you’re a mom and wife, try building a Habitat for Humanity home or spending time with seniors.

When you’re getting over an ex-partner, you should seriously consider whether it’s wise to spend time together. Maybe you’re still in love, or were abused, and have confused thoughts and feelings. Taking a break may be the wisest course of action.

Procrastination hack: “(10+2)*5”

Following on the idea of the procrastination dash and Jeff’s progressive dash, I’ve been experimenting with a squirelly new system to pound through my procrastinated to-do list. Brace yourself, because it is a bit more byzantine than is Merlin 2005’s newly stripped-down habit. It’s called (10+2)*5, and today it will save your ass.

Who it’s for

• procrastinators
• the easily distracted
• compulsive web-surfers
• people with a long list of very short tasks (a/k/a “mosquitos”)
• people having trouble chipping away at very large tasks

What you’ll need

1. a timer
   • must be easy to reset
   • electronic kitchen timer is particularly good (pref. with multiple alarm memories), or
   • an app like Minuteur (get the newest version—several cool new features)
2. a reduced subset of your to-do list
   • tasks that can be worked on (not necessarily completed) in blocks of 10 minutes or less
   • GTD people: next actions only, please
3. an hour of your time (less is potentially okay, but it’s non-canonical)
4. your sorry, procrastinating ass

How it works

It’s called “(10+2)*5” and here’s why:

• 10 – Work for ten minutes with single-minded focus on moving toward completion on a single task. Ten minutes, and that’s all you’re allowed to do is work, work, work. No cheating, because (DING!) you actually get a break when you’re done…
• 2 – After ten minutes of sweaty, dedicated work you get a 2-minute break to do whatever you want—drink coffee, read 5ives, call your bookie, whatever. When the two minutes are up, it’s back to work on the next task on your list. This is important.
• *5 – You’re going to iterate this four more times for a total of one hour’s working/breaking

Important squirrely rules

• You do not need to finish your task or your project in ten minutes; you just need to move it forward
• If you finish a satisfying amount of work in fewer than ten minutes, STOP, and go right to your 2-minute break, than start another 10-minute dash
• Do NOT skip breaks! You are not allowed. Breaks cannot be missed. Period. Go surf the web. Now. Seriously. GO!

What will happen

You’ll blaze through an hour’s worth of work/not work and will find yourself looking forward to both the breaking and working parts of the cycle. (Dang, how’s that for a change?)

The MacGuffin

The Now Habit
by Neil Fiore

Okay, you caught me. That’s the hack: you can and eventually will skip breaks.

In his (extremely wonderful) The Now Habit, Neil Fiore suggests a similar habit of “unscheduling,” where you only make obligations to the things that you enjoy and that are not the source of procrastination. John Perry suggests “Structured Procrastination,” where you only give high priority to “unimportant” tasks. Of course, this is taken to a hilarious extreme with Joshua Newman’s plan for scheduling just a few minutes of work per hour, and then focusing on the “more important” tasks like DVD re-arranging.

In all these cases—each of which will surely seem ludicrous to the “Why don’t you just go do your damned work?” crowd—the trick is to snap your mind out of the inert state that’s allowing procrastination to take over. You’re breaking down whatever resistance has made you not do what your brain knows needs to be done.

Your hacks for your problems

“(10+2)*5” can be adapted in any number of ways (change any of the three numerals to your liking), but remember: these goofy hacks only work because you’re a pathetic bastard like me whose mind can be tricked into work as easily as it can be lulled into torpor. Set your rules, follow your rules, and keep moving forward. Snap that procrastination by slipping your work through the back door.

Now go take a break. You’ve earned, you hard-working hacker, you.

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To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring; it means I can´t do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off; it’s the realization that I can´t control another.

To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another; I can change only myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective; it is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone, but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.

These are the instructions on how to let go… Perhaps it is letting go of a rebellious child, or a burden of sorrow; losing a loved one, or learning to live with a heartache which we just cannot let go of. Read this over… STUDY IT… PRAY OVER IT… and you will find that letting go of your load will release a peace within you which will allow your spirit to soar… to be free… to completely give it to God… and let a work be done within you where the need is anyway.

Treasure your failures, because they will lead you to success. Each negative result gets you closer and closer to the ultimate goal.

If you’re not failing, you´re not getting anything done. Failure is nothing to be ashamed of, but rather something to learn from. Often you can learn more from undesired results, than you can from something which works the way you planned.

To be a winner, you´ve got to keep stepping up to bat. Even if you struck out the last time, and the time before that. To each new attempt you bring more experience, more knowledge, more determination.

With each failure you greatly increase your chances of winning. It would be a shame to stop just short of your goal. Every day you’re getting better and better. With each attempt you learn, and become more effective. The prize is closer than you think. You’re becoming a winner. Keep it up for as long as it takes.

 George Orwell has earned the right to be called one of the finer writers in the English language through such novels as 1984 and Animal Farm, such essays as “Shooting an Elephant,” and his memoir Down and Out in Paris.

 George expressed a strong dislike of totalitarian governments in his work, but he was also passionate defender of good writing.  Thus, you may want to hear some of George’s writing tips.*

 A scrupulous writer, in every sentence that he writes, will ask himself at least four questions, thus: 

1. What am I trying to say?
2. What words will express it?
3. What image or idiom will make it clearer?
4. Is this image fresh enough to have an effect?

And he will probably ask himself two more:

1. Could I put it more shortly?
2. Have I said anything that is avoidably ugly?

One can often be in doubt about the effect of a word or a phrase, and one needs rules that one can rely on when instinct fails. I think the following rules will cover most cases:

1. Never use a metaphor, simile, or other figure of speech which you are used to seeing in print.
2. Never use a long word where a short one will do.
3. If it is possible to cut a word out, always cut it out.
4. Never use the passive where you can use the active.
5. Never use a foreign phrase, a scientific word, or a jargon word if you can think of an everyday English equivalent.
6. Break any of these rules sooner than say anything outright barbarous.   

* From “Politics and the English Language” by George Orwell.